[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":257},["ShallowReactive",2],{"blog-post-/shyness-overview":3},{"id":4,"title":5,"body":6,"date":243,"description":244,"draft":245,"extension":246,"image":247,"meta":248,"navigation":250,"path":251,"seo":252,"stem":253,"tags":254,"__hash__":256},"content_en/shyness-overview.md","Overcoming shyness: Overview",{"type":7,"value":8,"toc":233},"minimark",[9,13,33,38,50,53,59,64,67,72,75,81,87,90,93,107,112,119,134,137,140,143,146,154,157,161,164,169,172,177,182,187,192,195,198,201,205,208,224,230],[10,11,12],"p",{},"This series consists of several parts:",[14,15,16,24,27,30],"ol",{},[17,18,19,23],"li",{},[20,21,22],"strong",{},"Overview"," \u003C- You are here",[17,25,26],{},"Fear of rejection",[17,28,29],{},"The solution",[17,31,32],{},"My own journey",[34,35,37],"h2",{"id":36},"overcoming-with-shyness-overview","Overcoming with shyness: Overview",[10,39,40,41,45,46,49],{},"If you are reading this post, you probably know what ",[42,43,44],"code",{},"shyness"," or\n",[42,47,48],{},"social-anxiety"," is. Even if you didn't use the term that much.",[10,51,52],{},"That tight feeling in your throat, increased heartrate before speaking in front\nof a bunch of people you dont know really well. The intense feeling of fear,\nbefore starting a conversation with an attractive person, or meeting someone new\nfor the first time:",[54,55,56],"blockquote",{},[10,57,58],{},"What do they think of me?",[54,60,61],{},[10,62,63],{},"Isn't that stupid thing to say?",[10,65,66],{},"The painful silence after you are both exchanged names with each other, standing\nthere looking at each other, waiting and hoping that you will be able to think\nof something to say:",[54,68,69],{},[10,70,71],{},"Omg! You dont have anything to say. what's wrong with you?",[10,73,74],{},"First, lets define these two terms. Because i believe people might confuse these\nterms with inappropriate situation:",[10,76,77,80],{},[20,78,79],{},"Shyness",": Shyness is the feeling of lack of comfort, or awkwardness\nespecially when a person is around other people.",[10,82,83,86],{},[20,84,85],{},"Social anxiety",": Persistent fear of social situations where one might be\njudged, embarrassed, or humiliated.",[10,88,89],{},"Shyness and social-anxiety is a common disorder that effect i believe more than\nmillions of people in my country.",[10,91,92],{},"These types of social challenges are incredibly common. During these challenges,\nit's so common to feel most people around you doesn't have these kind\nissues. But it's just the way you see the world. What i mean is, this is just\nyour inner-critique/deciptive-brain, that tricks you to pay more attention to people who are\nbold enough in their social interaction. There is nothing actually wrong with\nyou. You are not broken in some-way. You're just facing some challenging pattern\nthat is limiting your choices.",[10,94,95,96,99,100,99,103,106],{},"So, just knowing that there are so much people like you whoose have similiar\nexperiences, are giving a great sense of relief. Internet is full of this type\nof stories. Online communities like ",[42,97,98],{},"Reddit"," & ",[42,101,102],{},"Telegram",[42,104,105],{},"Forums"," can people\nfeel undrestood and supported.",[108,109,111],"h3",{"id":110},"goal-being-less-shy-and-having-just-a-moderate-anxiety","Goal: Being less shy, and having just a moderate anxiety",[10,113,114,115,118],{},"Ultimately, during our journey of overcoming shyness & social anxiety, We want\nto be a person that is ",[42,116,117],{},"less shy"," and is able to handle a social situations,\nE.g.:",[120,121,122,125,128,131],"ul",{},[17,123,124],{},"Speaking in front of a group",[17,126,127],{},"return a product to a store that you are not satistfied with.",[17,129,130],{},"Start a conversation with a person(For any goal)",[17,132,133],{},"...",[10,135,136],{},"The fact is, all people are having a sense anxiety in social situations like\nthis, the only thing that is different is the amount of it! And actually, being\nshy in some amount is actually a good thing.",[10,138,139],{},"Ha ha😄. Yes there is nothing actually wrong with being shy. In different\ncultures(including some type of iranian cultures), Being quite, humble and\nrespectful of other are pretty valuable thing.",[10,141,142],{},"The goal of this journey is not to be never scared again in social\nsituations. It's unrealistic. The same type of shyness, makes you kinder, more\npatient and better listener.",[10,144,145],{},"The real goal however, is to look at your life where you feel so limited and\nhave too much filter on yourself. Eliminating a feeling that you can't do the\nthings that are really matter to you. What i mean in general is, how much grows\nopportunity you lost because you never initiated a conversation with some\none. This can be any kind of opportunity:",[120,147,148,151],{},[17,149,150],{},"A job opportunity. The job maket is rough these days. Making some friends\nmight end up helping you to find a great opportunity to show yourself to just\nget involve in the job market.",[17,152,153],{},"Creating a loving relationship with a beautiful partner. A truly life-changing\nthing, which is more possible when you take some mild risks(that you can\nhandle of course). But it's impossible when you have a fear of being rejected.",[10,155,156],{},"Being too shy and too self-aware, prevents you from living a life that you truly want. Life is just\nboring when you feel invisible in population.",[108,158,160],{"id":159},"the-core","The core",[10,162,163],{},"Social anxiety & shyness at it's core, is the feeling that says:",[10,165,166],{},[20,167,168],{},"I'm not good enough",[10,170,171],{},"It can be expanded in different situation:",[54,173,174],{},[10,175,176],{},"I'm not attractive enough",[54,178,179],{},[10,180,181],{},"I'm not smart enough",[54,183,184],{},[10,185,186],{},"I'm not successful enough",[54,188,189],{},[10,190,191],{},"I'm not rich enough",[10,193,194],{},"And because of that, people will not accept me. They will judge me, reject me. I\nwill lose the connection with the earth and feel isolated after that.",[10,196,197],{},"Keep in mind, you might not literally thinking of these, it is most of the time\nhappens unconciously. You just feel intense.",[10,199,200],{},"When we feel something wrong with us and we are not worthy of love and\nbelonging, we can describe this in some kind of shame.",[108,202,204],{"id":203},"what-causes-this","What causes this?",[10,206,207],{},"Social anxiety is a complex result of the experience of environment you are\ngrowing up.",[120,209,210,213,216,219,222],{},[17,211,212],{},"Your family",[17,214,215],{},"Your biology",[17,217,218],{},"Your early childhood experiences",[17,220,221],{},"Your experiences in high school",[17,223,133],{},[10,225,226,227],{},"Social anxiety at its core, is some type of patterns that you are learned wrong\nalong your life experience. ",[20,228,229],{},"But it can be unlearned",[10,231,232],{},"Who cares? let's just focus on the solution alright?",{"title":234,"searchDepth":235,"depth":235,"links":236},"",2,[237],{"id":36,"depth":235,"text":37,"children":238},[239,241,242],{"id":110,"depth":240,"text":111},3,{"id":159,"depth":240,"text":160},{"id":203,"depth":240,"text":204},"2026-02-27T00:00:00.000Z","Do not keep the world waiting",false,"md","/blog-images/cows.webp",{"alt":249},"cattle",true,"/shyness-overview",{"title":5,"description":244},"shyness-overview",[255],"health","XNAbi5zke3GndDXXzdCUWXpwF-kraKZK3q2-D0DxPcY",1772192624434]